Live Happy Now :)

Singaporean is surveyed to be most unhappy people among Asia. Singaporean has too many expectations, and we are not happy with small achievement.

Children are expected to learn more then what they are expected to learn at their level. Well this is not really that bad, but if children cannot cope with what they are learning and being force to learn even more, that is real bad. So from young Singaporean are taught to be competitive and never be contented for second place.

So much for high expectation. If we get first in class, we are not happy, because someone from other class score better and is first in school. If we are first in school, we are not happy because someone from RI score better and is first in national level. But when we really become first in national level, are we really happy? By that time, we will forget what happiness is and we do not know how to be happy.

Being happy is just a state of mind. Most people expected for certain things to happen before they become happy. For most of the case. Example, when you score well in your exam, you are happy. For a lot of Singaporean, when you strike 4D, you are most happy. But if you expectation is too high, you will not be happy when you score well in exam, you wanted 100%. You will not be happy when you strike 4D because you only win $60.

Being happy is more than expectation. Having your expectation to be met in order to be happy is to let you emotion driven by external source. You can be happy if you decide to be happy, just as you can be sad if you decide to be sad. Maybe we can learn something from the small children. These small people are among those happier people.

When you give a baby a smile they will smile. When you give them a piece of chocolate, they will smile even bigger. Why is that so? Because these small people have very low expectation to be happy. They just want simple stuff to be happy.

So am I saying that we should lower our expectation in order to be happy? No. We just have to lower our expectation to be happy, we still can keep our expectation high. When we have 1 dollar, we are happy because we have a dollar, but we do not just settle for one dollar and sit back. We can expect more, but with whatever that is given to us, let us be happy with whatever we have.